Aw Shelley <3 Thank you, hun! As I’ve been re-reading ISLTW I keep smiling and giggling at the parts where Noah and Aria are having heated fights and all I can feel is this strong sense of passion I created between them. They’re both so passionate about each other <3
Thank you for being so devoted to my series. I seriously cannot wait to submit my hard work to publishers and hopefully convince them to publish.
Just read your previous messages… will respond now
I think your age difference does cause a huge obstacle in your relationship. You’re 16 and he’s 15 years older. He’s more experienced and technically he is the adult. Everyone goes through ups and downs in relationships, and the longer you are with someone, the more you learn about them. Sometimes you realize that they are not always what you want. It could be that that he’s just now realizing that your age gap is interfering with a lot of things and he is apprehensive to move forward with you. I mean, I don’t know, I can’t judge, I can only assume.
I know that you can’t help who you fall for. You say that you feel like you’ve been throwing yourself at him, this could be because you feel worried/insecure that you might lose him, so you send provocative photos to keep him interested.
I can honestly tell you that if he really loves you, whether you send him racy photos or not, he would want to be with you because he loves your soul, all of you. I strongly advise you not to send nude pictures with your face in it. That could end up biting you in the ass later on. I am not sure where you live, but if it’s illegal to date someone who is 16 and a minor, that could be weighing heavily on his conscience and troubling him.
I suggest you really communicate your feelings to him. You shouldn’t have to go to extremes to keep him interested in you. I can only pray that he’s not someone who is a predator and messing with you.
In any case, if things dont work out, you have to be strong enough to move on and try dating people closer to your own age.
My characters in ISFTW have a 16 year age difference, and I will be showing how hard those challenges are to be in a relationship with someone who is much older and much younger. When you put all the love and excitement aside, your’re left with very realistic issues.
I’m not sure what it is you exactly want me to speculate on and conclude in regards to your relationship with him. All I can say is that when something is bothering you, talk to your partner and express how you feel. You can’t expect for your relationship to NOT be challenging, because realistically, it is. But at your age, I can honestly say that I thought I knew everything there was to know about the world and people… oh how wrong i was. You still have a lot to learn and experience hun. Give yourself time to grow, and don’t focus your entire life on your bf. Make sure your love life and process of personal growth is balanced. I just don’t want you to sink into a depression or lose your self identity and self worth if you and your bf break up. (not that I’m wishing ill-will on your relationship).
But to be fair, if he is breaking the law by engaging in a relationship with you, then you need to understand his reservations. I know that you probably feel that when you love someone, age shouldn’t matter, but this is just how society is… there are rules that we are conditioned to abide by.
Again, I strongly urge you to wait on sex. If he really loves you, he will wait for you, and if you feel uncomfy about sending sexy pics, then don’t send them. You shouldn’t have to “sell/advertise/exploit your worth” to someone to make them want to stay with you.
Lastly, I am going to quote you:
"I feel as though i had been throwing myself at him when i am the sort that people throw themselves at me (not bragging just saying) what do you think?"
I think that sounds like a bruised ego. I feel like you’re annoyed or upset that you have to be more… clingy and throw yourself at him for attention? When usually you’re like the calm, cool person who is used to getting attention from others without effort, right? Well, whether I am accurate or not, this is my personal opinion.
Most women don’t like to feel like they have to work sooooo hard to get their man’s attention. Most times we want them to just know, hey! Pay attention to me! Give me more love!
But they’re not psychic, and they can’t always read our moods… especially through text. So, again, just communicate and tell him how you feel.
Anyway, hope this helps put some things into perspective for you. Good luck with your relationship and stay safe always
I’m aiming to have them published in paperback/hard cover. Ebook is last option for me.
I seriously missed reading ISLTW. lol. I can only imagine how the rest of you feel. I promise the wait will be worth it.
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I actually said these exact words to my fatal ex some years ago. Did the prophecy come true? Yes.
I wasn’t aware of these contests. That is something I would be interested in though :)
Awwwwwwww, thank you, I’m so flattered :$ <3